Abundant Living

Failure?

So you’ve failed in the past. Does this mean you're a failure?

If you're carrying the same mistakes from your past into your present, even if you know it’s wrong, you could have an unhealthy issue with your identity. Your identity has many compartments. You may seem healthy in some areas of identity, but be unhealthy in others. You might even have what appears to be a positive sense of identity, but it can still be unhealthy. Our heart is the seat of our identity. We all live out of the beliefs of our hearts. Our behavior is the result of those beliefs.

To change behavior, we must focus on changing the beliefs of our hearts. Behavior modification generally just leaves us exhausted in trying to change the symptom, but not healing the problem.
Is this scriptural? Absolutely!

Proverbs. 4:33. New International Version
"Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."

Proverbs 3:23 Complete Jewish Bible.
"Above everything else, guard your heart; for it is the source of life’s consequences."

Take a step in a healthy direction! Identity is Everything!

Inside out!

The mistakes I’ve made that hurt people.
The opportunities that I did not follow through on.
The feelings of not belonging.
That critical inner voice that compared myself to others.
The replayed, diminishing words of family members and ill-equipped leaders.
These were all signs of an unhealthy sense of Identity.

The truest you is not found in your failures, feelings, others opinions or your circumstances of lack.

One can have a positive sense of self and still not have a healthy sense of self. The truest, healthiest you is rooted in God's opinion of you. ESPECIALLY in the verses that include the phrases, In Christ, By Christ, Through Christ, With Christ.
Why? These verses represent how God Our Father sees us. Father knows best!

We all live out of the beliefs of our hearts, particularly the beliefs about self. Changing those unhealthy beliefs to healthy beliefs, changes our behaviors and lives!

Thankfully, God is all about transformation! He does it from the inside out!

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Honestly, I Just don't Like This Scripture!

Before you judge me too harshly, let me explain. I do love God’s word. Like you, I have some favorite scriptures, (about 200 or so), but there are scriptures that challenge me.

The one I’m referring too in the title is found in the Book of James, Chapter 4, verses 2-4.

2-4 “Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.“

I DON’T LIKE WHEN MY FAITH HAS TESTS AND CHALLENGES! Especially when it seems like these tests really do come at me from ALL SIDES! It’s these tests and trials that expose the true colors of our faith.

But this scripture tells us to consider it a gift! WHY? Because they help us mature. This scripture doesn’t say that these tests and challenges are even from God. After all, He can’t and won’t test us with evil. The fallen world we live in is a test all by itself. I don’t like being proven to be deficient in any way. Do you? The process of life’s challenges is necessary in order to achieve the desired result!

So, if I want maturity and to be well developed, I have to change my outlook! I have to change the way I look at tests and challenges, knowing that as I “trust God” in and through them, I’m being equipped for other things.

Let me share a couple of things that can help in moving through these trying times.

  1. There’s always more going on than what we see in the moment. We only see in part. We only know in part. There is a bigger picture. The frustrations and irritations that we feel are based on a part - not the whole. God always has a bigger picture and a bigger plan. God’s plans are good. He said so! Jeremiah 29:11 tells us, “ I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord; they are good and not evil. They are plans that give you hope and a future and an expected end.”

    Rest in the fact that his plan provides new appointments that have the power to override the the disappointments of our present and past.

  2. There’s always a promise from God. During these times of, “the trying of our faith”, we can focus on the promises that God’s word has given us for every situation. I’ve yet to meet the Christian that does not need to grow more in certain areas of his or her life. Our trials, combined with faith and patience have the ability to, “Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

    God’s desire is that we are not deficient in any way - which means that God wants us to grow up into His ways and representation of Him.

I may not like the process while in the process, but I love the idea of being a better representation of Him. In all ways!

Honestly, I Just don't Like This Scripture!

Before you judge me too harshly, let me explain. I do love God’s word. Like you, I have some favorite scriptures, (about 200 or so), but there are scriptures that challenge me.

The one I’m referring too in the title is found in the Book of James, Chapter 4, verses 2-4.

2-4 “Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.“

I DON’T LIKE WHEN MY FAITH HAS TESTS AND CHALLENGES! Especially when it seems like these tests really do come at me from ALL SIDES! It’s these tests and trials that expose the true colors of our faith.

But this scripture tells us to consider it a gift! WHY? Because they help us mature. This scripture doesn’t say that these tests and challenges are even from God. After all, He can’t and won’t test us with evil. The fallen world we live in is a test all by itself. I don’t like being proven to be deficient in any way. Do you? The process of life’s challenges is necessary in order to achieve the desired result!

So, if I want maturity and to be well developed, I have to change my outlook! I have to change the way I look at tests and challenges, knowing that as I “trust God” in and through them, I’m being equipped for other things.

Let me share a couple of things that can help in moving through these trying times.

  1. There’s always more going on than what we see in the moment. We only see in part. We only know in part. There is a bigger picture. The frustrations and irritations that we feel are based on a part - not the whole. God always has a bigger picture and a bigger plan. God’s plans are good. He said so! Jeremiah 29:11 tells us, “ I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord; they are good and not evil. They are plans that give you hope and a future and an expected end.”

    Rest in the fact that his plan provides new appointments that have the power to override the the disappointments of our present and past.

  2. There’s always a promise from God. During these times of, “the trying of our faith”, we can focus on the promises that God’s word has given us for every situation. I’ve yet to meet the Christian that does not need to grow more in certain areas of his or her life. Our trials, combined with faith and patience have the ability to, “Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

    God’s desire is that we are not deficient in any way - which means that God wants us to grow up into His ways and representation of Him.

I may not like the process while in the process, but I love the idea of being a better representation of Him. In all ways!

It's Not An Easy Thing!

There’s no shame in needing help through the decision and process of FORGIVING OTHERS. More times than not, forgiveness is a journey not just a one time decision. The boundaries we create to keep our offenders out, can also keep us locked in with our offense, pain, and resentment. While those boundaries may temporarily make us feel safe, they can not be a healthy substitute for forgiveness!

The prisoner we set free is ourselves, when we choose to forgive! You don’t have to take this journey alone.

Surviving Estrangement ( With your sanity)! #9 The Root of Bitterness!

When experiencing estrangement from a loved one, we feel a myriad of emotions. The internal trying to make sense of it, the mental roller coaster ride with its ups and downs, loops and jolts, can be wearisome.

Whether we are the estranger or the estranged, It’s important to guard our hearts against the root of bitterness. There’s a pretty good chance that resentment or bitterness has already played a big part in the scenario anyway.

Bitterness is more than just an emotional state that involves sadness, resentment and anger. It can evolve from feeling unappreciated, unloved, disrespected, insulted or injured.

There are consequences that bitterness has on our physical health that cannot be overlooked. It fuels our stress levels which in itself can lead to many other physical issues.

Research has proven that chronic bitterness can weaken our body’s ability to fight off infections and illnesses. I’m not one get sick often, so when I do, I make it a practice to ask myself if what I’m experiencing is associated with any unhealthy, negative feelings like resentment or bitterness. A persistent release of stress hormones suppresses our immune system’s proper functioning - so not only do we have an “open door” for infections and sicknesses, our bodies can’t recover as quickly when we do get sick.

Our bodies also become more susceptible to risks of high blood pressure, which in turn adds to the possibility of heart disease and stroke .

Digestive issues, sleep disorders, accelerated aging, and chronic muscle aches and pains are also some of the ways bitterness can affect our physical health.

We also need to look at the fact that there is the spiritual aspect of bitterness. Bitterness at its core is a self-protecting judgment that we make about someone else. It seems like Jesus may have spoken once or twice about not judging others.

Hebrews 12:15 instructs believers in this way. “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.”

This scripture offers us a solution to bitterness! It’s not just a command and warning against it.

Bitterness is subject to the grace of God. When we offer our bitterness to God, He provides a grace that empowers us to live above it. Grace is the power to be and the power to do what we can’t be and do in our own strength! God’s grace has many facets to it. Grace is the basis of our salvation. Grace is also the enabling power to fulfill the will of God, as well as strength for obeying his word. In many instances of estrangement, bitterness is the root, that has empowered the problem, by both the estranger and the estranged!

Bitterness is also BLIND! It keeps us searching in the wrong direction, and only leads to deception.

According to the above mentioned scripture, the root of bitterness causes trouble, and defiles us.

Listen, I get it - estrangement is painful! Bitterness only adds to the pain, and increases chances of more pain, physically and spiritually. There is a grace that helps us to forgive. There is a grace that brings health and healing to our hearts and souls.

What is our response to God’s ability going to be? Will we release the bitterness. It’s at the root of many negative consequences we may be facing. It’s at the root of trouble in our lives. Let’s not fail to obtain the grace to forgive and move forward beyond the bitterness.

God Has Never Said OOPS!

Healing the BROKENHEARTED was intentionally placed in the redemptive mission of Christ!

The mission statement of Jesus is found in Luke 4:18-19,

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the POOR; he hath sent me to heal the BROKENHEARTED, to preach deliverance to the CAPTIVES, and recovering of sight to the BLIND, to set at liberty them that are BRUISED, to preach the acceptable year of the Lord”

He knew this world would bring heartbreak. He isn’t surprised by it! He hasn’t wondered about what to do. He made healing our hearts part of His plan! Your story has another chapter!

Listen to Yourself!

If you take the time to listen, you will hear a lot of things being said about you today. Some of these words will be encouraging and uplifting - some will not be! Some things we will hear may come from external sources. Someone will have an opinion of you and the things you do. More importantly, you will hear yourself speak to yourself, about yourself.

We all have enemies of our souls. I’m convinced that our biggest enemy is not the devil. After all, he is not eternal, he is not all knowing, or all powerful, and he can’t be everywhere at once.

Our biggest enemy is not our past, it’s not our race, or our current economic status. It is not our lack of education, our childhood dysfunctional home life, or lack of opportunity.

While these things can have an affect on us, they are only part of a story that makes up a bigger story that translates into our IDENTITY!

All of us have things written upon our hearts. It’s the things we have believed about ourselves that we live out daily!

Proverbs instructs us to “Guard our hearts, (the seat of our identity) with all diligence, because everything we do flows from it!” This scripture actually has nothing to do with guarding our hearts against other people, but being cautious with the information we perceive as the truth, predominantly about ourselves.

Our biggest enemy is the lie we believe about ourselves. We live what we have interpreted to be the truth about ourselves, even if it’s not truthful.

We are our best, most purposeful self when we see ourselves as God sees us!

So, have you listened to yourself - to the words and thoughts you tell yourself about yourself? You may repeatedly use a few choice words when describing yourself. Listen… Pay attention to the questions you ask yourself about yourself. Like, “Why do I always…?” or “Why am I so…? Do the things you believe about yourself align with the things God says and thinks about you?

Identity is everything! Renewing our minds to God’s word is the beginning of transformation! (Romans 12:1-2)

Today, listen to yourself - begin to catch, challenge and change your thoughts, you have and believe about yourself.

Take The "Lord I Need You" Challenge (John 15:5)

A few weeks ago, as I was driving to town in my truck, Matt Maher’s song, Lord I need You, came on the radio.

The lyrics, “Lord I need you, how I need you! EVERY HOUR I NEED YOU,” began to challenge me. I believe all of us who call ourselves Christians, recognize our need for God, in many ways. But I felt challenged to recognize how much I readily admit that I need Him, which also makes me recognize my attitude of independence, or my “I can do this on my own”attitude . Sure, I recognize my need for grace and forgiveness - consistently! I need strength and joy and wisdom - always. But do I believe that I really need him - EVERY HOUR?

So, I accepted this inner challenge of, throughout the day, telling God, “I NEED YOU!” As close as possible to each new hour, without necessarily setting an alarm, yet being cognizant in as many hours throughout my day - as I wake up - as I lay down to sleep - acknowledging that I NEED HIM!

I could tell immediately that this was going to be beneficial to me in many ways. Here’s a short list of ways it’s helped me and might help you too!

1. It drew my attention and recognition to God, helping me to recenter my thoughts, life and actions on him!

2. It reminded me of his abiding presence.

3. It opened doors of grace. (God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble)!

4. I became more submissive and open to His leading!

5. Helped me to bear spiritual fruit!

It’s been said, “What we look at grows, and what we look at the most grows the biggest!” Of everything that’s in my life, I want His presence to be the most evident. I want His promises and purposes to be manifested! The only way for that to happen is if I consistently LOOK AT HIM!

Perhaps you look for these things as well! If so, I want to invite you to take the “Lord I Need You Challenge!” It’s not to pressure, judge, or condemn ourselves or others over. It is intended to encourage you and help in the areas I’ve found help in, but possibly other areas as well!

LORD, I NEED YOU! EVERY HOUR I NEED YOU!

Jn. 15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me…you can do nothing.

Struggling with Finances?

Zig Ziglar is quoted as saying, “money isn’t everything but it ranks up there with oxygen.”

Nearly everything we want, need, desire, and dream of requires money. Money makes the world go ‘round more than love does! When we struggle financially, it seems to affect every other area of our lives.

We can provide scriptural evidence that money is important to God, the kingdom of God, and His people in general. There are approximately 2000 scriptures about money and possessions in the Bible, indicating its importance. Many of these scriptures speak to God’s generous nature and desire to meet the needs of His people.

So why do so many good people, who love God, struggle with financial hardship, as if their money is swept away with the current of life. Many people who I personally know are barely getting by, and some are not even close to being able to pay their bills. As much as we want to point a finger, the struggle “ultimately” can’t be blamed on politics, the times we are living in, or any other number of things that contribute to our financial frustrations. Before you stop reading, I’ll address this statement a little later in more detail.

Perhaps you are struggling right now with a financial hardhship. I’d like to simply point out three things to ponder that I hope will help. Actually, I have three questions to ask. This will certainly not be an exhaustive study on the topic, but I believe it might help realign our vision, thoughts and actions that can prepare us for increase!

First of all; do we believe God wants us to prosper and have our needs and even desires met? If we are going to pray for financial blessing and trust God to meet our needs, we must believe that it is God’s will, otherwise we can’t ask in faith. Scripture assures us that, “My God shall supply all of your needs, according to His riches in Glory, by Christ Jesus.” We are also told to, “Remember the Lord thy God, for it’s He that gives us the power to attain wealth, so that his covenant can be established in the earth.” The Apostle John wrote, “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be healthy, even as your soul prospers!”

I encourage you to google scriptures that speak about God’s will regarding finances, to create your own beliefs and build your faith regarding this topic. This is important! I don’t just want you to take my word for it. We all “live out of” the beliefs of our heart. That’s why you and I are instructed to “guard your heart with all diligence, because out of it flow all the issues of life!” Unhealthy and unscriptural beliefs lead to unhealthy issues. Money issues come from what we hold to be true about money!

Next - Are we looking to God as our source, or a job as our source. This is an area where we seem to get our eyes off of the abundance of God and onto other things. We stop trusting in the Lord and start leaning to our understanding, or what we can see, and hear!. Trusting in our job can only offer limited security and comfort but not true peace, because it’s a temporary situation. It can change without notice. God never changes! He is always the same. Sure, we are expected to work a job, or be self employed. But our job should be viewed as an avenue, not our source. If God can provide a widow in the Bible with enough oil to sell, and then live for the rest of her life - and if God can provide a prophet with food, brought to him by ravens in his time if need, God can provide for us in untypical ways also! When we look to someone or something else as our source, our faith and the supply becomes limited. When we view God as our source, he meets our needs “according to His riches in glory” (Phil. 4:19), not according to one avenue. As our source, He creates other avenues to help us from. There have been times I’ve received an unexpected check in the mail. There have been times when a gift from someone was given with the reason from the giver that “they felt like they (or God) wanted to bless me!” I don’t know about you, but I want a financial source with unlimited avenues, not an avenue as my source that has its built in limits.

God’s economic plan is not attached to the U.S. treasury. He is not affected by inflation. I believe he cares about the decisions made by whoever is in the White House, but if we are looking to God as our source and not other men, or the economic indicators, we can live from the supernatural flow of His kingdom! Jesus prayed that “God’s will would be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Heaven is not suffering financial hardships! After all, the streets are made of gold!

Finally, How stingy or generous are we, especially when things get tight financially? The golden rule applies all the time, not just when we feel like we have the most to offer. Sowing seeds into the lives of others can look like a lot of different things. We are encouraged to be friendly when we need a friend. We are also encouraged to give financially to the need of others when we ourselves have needs. Proverbs tells us that, “One gives freely and grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.” We are also instructed in Proverbs 11 that, “The world of the generous gets larger and larger; the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller. The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped.”

The kingdom of God way of doing things does not always make sense, nor agree with the world’s philosophy. God sees our kindness and “doing unto others” as seeds that will bring us a harvest of the things we have sown. Giving to others, especially when we have a need that we don’t know how it will be met, opens another avenue for God to bless us with. Jesus’ own words in red are, “Give and it will be given back to, good measure, pressed down and shaken together, will be poured into your lap!”

God wants to bless us! He wants to be our source who can bless us through many avenues. He wants our trust placed in Him more than any other person or thing. He also wants to use our unselfish generosity towards others, to create an avenue in which he can bring his provision back around to us.

Be well!