Heart Beliefs

Failure?

So you’ve failed in the past. Does this mean you're a failure?

If you're carrying the same mistakes from your past into your present, even if you know it’s wrong, you could have an unhealthy issue with your identity. Your identity has many compartments. You may seem healthy in some areas of identity, but be unhealthy in others. You might even have what appears to be a positive sense of identity, but it can still be unhealthy. Our heart is the seat of our identity. We all live out of the beliefs of our hearts. Our behavior is the result of those beliefs.

To change behavior, we must focus on changing the beliefs of our hearts. Behavior modification generally just leaves us exhausted in trying to change the symptom, but not healing the problem.
Is this scriptural? Absolutely!

Proverbs. 4:33. New International Version
"Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."

Proverbs 3:23 Complete Jewish Bible.
"Above everything else, guard your heart; for it is the source of life’s consequences."

Take a step in a healthy direction! Identity is Everything!

Inside out!

The mistakes I’ve made that hurt people.
The opportunities that I did not follow through on.
The feelings of not belonging.
That critical inner voice that compared myself to others.
The replayed, diminishing words of family members and ill-equipped leaders.
These were all signs of an unhealthy sense of Identity.

The truest you is not found in your failures, feelings, others opinions or your circumstances of lack.

One can have a positive sense of self and still not have a healthy sense of self. The truest, healthiest you is rooted in God's opinion of you. ESPECIALLY in the verses that include the phrases, In Christ, By Christ, Through Christ, With Christ.
Why? These verses represent how God Our Father sees us. Father knows best!

We all live out of the beliefs of our hearts, particularly the beliefs about self. Changing those unhealthy beliefs to healthy beliefs, changes our behaviors and lives!

Thankfully, God is all about transformation! He does it from the inside out!

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It's Not An Easy Thing!

There’s no shame in needing help through the decision and process of FORGIVING OTHERS. More times than not, forgiveness is a journey not just a one time decision. The boundaries we create to keep our offenders out, can also keep us locked in with our offense, pain, and resentment. While those boundaries may temporarily make us feel safe, they can not be a healthy substitute for forgiveness!

The prisoner we set free is ourselves, when we choose to forgive! You don’t have to take this journey alone.

Listen to Yourself!

If you take the time to listen, you will hear a lot of things being said about you today. Some of these words will be encouraging and uplifting - some will not be! Some things we will hear may come from external sources. Someone will have an opinion of you and the things you do. More importantly, you will hear yourself speak to yourself, about yourself.

We all have enemies of our souls. I’m convinced that our biggest enemy is not the devil. After all, he is not eternal, he is not all knowing, or all powerful, and he can’t be everywhere at once.

Our biggest enemy is not our past, it’s not our race, or our current economic status. It is not our lack of education, our childhood dysfunctional home life, or lack of opportunity.

While these things can have an affect on us, they are only part of a story that makes up a bigger story that translates into our IDENTITY!

All of us have things written upon our hearts. It’s the things we have believed about ourselves that we live out daily!

Proverbs instructs us to “Guard our hearts, (the seat of our identity) with all diligence, because everything we do flows from it!” This scripture actually has nothing to do with guarding our hearts against other people, but being cautious with the information we perceive as the truth, predominantly about ourselves.

Our biggest enemy is the lie we believe about ourselves. We live what we have interpreted to be the truth about ourselves, even if it’s not truthful.

We are our best, most purposeful self when we see ourselves as God sees us!

So, have you listened to yourself - to the words and thoughts you tell yourself about yourself? You may repeatedly use a few choice words when describing yourself. Listen… Pay attention to the questions you ask yourself about yourself. Like, “Why do I always…?” or “Why am I so…? Do the things you believe about yourself align with the things God says and thinks about you?

Identity is everything! Renewing our minds to God’s word is the beginning of transformation! (Romans 12:1-2)

Today, listen to yourself - begin to catch, challenge and change your thoughts, you have and believe about yourself.

Two Kinds of Broken! Which One Do You Identify With?

In today’s church lingo, the word “broken” has become the go-to term for the definition of our state of being.  The term is used in songs, sermon’s, books, articles and yes… blogs.  We use the word to describe our condition(s). 

Before you read much farther, I do want to clarify something upfront! If you are currently brokenhearted and hurting from wrongs done to you, take note that your situation is different than what I referring to here.  Thankfully, Jesus does address your situation in Luke 4:18 and states that He has been sent to heal the brokenhearted.  In Psalms 147:3 God promises that He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.  There is hope and healing for your broken heart.    

In this writing, I’m referring to the church attributing every negative issue to our broken state.  We attribute our failures, our inabilities, and our physical imperfections to our brokenness.  We have accepted the mindset that all the imperfect things about ourselves should be attributed to our brokenness.   However, brokenness, as the scripture mentions is quite different. The word is used properly when we speak of humbling ourselves in surrender to God with the purpose of Him flowing through us, for his glory.

This world we live in is broken.  Before coming to Christ we were broken.  God does not see us as broken beings, if we are in Christ.  As a matter of fact, scripture tells us that we are complete in Him (Colossians 2:10).  This claim by the church that “we are just broken People” feels like a “Yeah but” against what God says about us. Don’t get me wrong - we are to be broken!  Brokenness is not a result of the exterior happenings that make us feel less than or not enough.  Nor is it the weariness we experience due to us holding onto some expected outcome.  Brokenness is not the emotional trauma that we have endured and carried ourselves, only to find that our strength was not enough.   It is not the excuses we make for ourselves. The brokenness the Bible speaks of is completely different.  Grace, (the power to be and do what we can’t be and do in our own strength) covers our inadequacies caused by the fall in the Garden of Eden and our old nature. 

The Apostle Paul writes in the book of 2 Corinthians, chapter 12, “when I am weak, then I am strong,” (as one who is depending on God’s grace).  The external things that destroy the faith of many people are what Paul considered pleasure and delight! How could he say that about our trials? Because he knew God’s grace would strengthen him. He also knew that God’s grace was always sufficient for whatever came his way! In personal weakness, God’s grace imparts strength. His power is perfected in our weakness. Weakness without this grace is misery and continued weakness.

Scriptural brokenness is not the results of something that happens to us.  True Brokenness results in Us happening to something!  It’s not being victimized by circumstances but is being dependent upon and submitted to God’s plan and power in order to destroy the works of darkness and bring light to those situations. Life’s truest satisfaction comes when He increases and we decrease (John 3:30).  For it is God who works in you (us), both to will and to work for His good pleasure. (Philippians 2:13)

“There is something of great value within us, but we are like pots made of earth and clay.  This power is greater than any other power. But it comes from God, not from us.  We have much trouble, but we do not give up.  We are in hard places, but help always comes.  (2 Corinthians  4:7-8 World English New Testament)  

In biblical times clay pots that contained valuable items were typically sealed.  In many cases there was no way to sample what was inside a container. The container had to be broken to access the treasure within.  As it is with the vessel that this scripture speaks of, we must be broken, willingly, to allow the power of God within us to be manifested.

 Notice that circumstances and hardships listed in the scripture above are not what is referred to as brokenness, or the cause of brokenness.  There is hope and help in all circumstances.  Breaking is what comes from our humility to God’s greatness and goodness.

Scriptural brokenness is intentional.  It is deliberate with a purpose in mind.  

 The night Jesus was handed over to the soldiers, He took bread. When He had given thanks, He broke it and said, “Take this bread and eat it. This is My body which is broken for you. Do this to remember Me.” (1 Cor. 11:23-24).

Jesus intentionally gave Himself to be broken for us!  Brokenness for the believer means to die to self so that His abundant life can flow through us, bringing life to others.  Brokenness is necessary to reveal purpose.  Every Christian’s purpose is about the Kingdom of God and living for something bigger than ourselves, for those other than ourselves.

As the popular saying goes, “Think broken – Feel broken – Act broken”….  Okay, I admit, that’s not a popular saying.  I’ve never heard that before now, but there’s truth in those words.  Brokenness is not a state of being that needs healing.  It’s the beginning of something powerful.  As long as we keep telling ourselves that we are broken, in the sense that we are focusing on our faults and circumstances, we will live in that reality.   We have a choice in what and who we IDENTIFY with! Let’s stop using the word “Broken” as an indicator of what’s wrong with us and realize it is a powerful reference of humility and submission to God’s reign, which leads to revival and restoration for ourselves and others. 

It's Automatic!

So many times we try modifying our behavior, believing that changing our actions will somehow change us. As noble as that might seem, transformation takes place from the inside out.

Each of us have things written on our hearts. These things become the truth we live out. Some of those things are good and healthy, while some things are debilitating and unhealthy.

These truths are written by experiences and events from our past. They are planted in us by the words of others and the things we tell ourselves about ourselves.

Even if something does not line up with God’s truth about us, but we believe it, it becomes our life’s guide. We only live, behave, function from what our heart perceives as our truth.

Perhaps that’s why Proverbs 4:23, teaches us, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

If you’re looking for transformation in your life, let’s start by looking at changing your perceived truth about yourself! Change then becomes automatic. Your truth determines how you see yourself fitting, functioning, and flourishing in the world around you. It’s your sense of identity - Identity is everything!

What destination, what outcome, what results will your next step lead you to?

Brokenness - The Beginning of Something Powerful!

In today’s church lingo, the word “broken” has become the go-to term for the definition of our state of being.  The term is used in songs, sermon’s, books, articles and yes… blogs.  We use the word to describe our condition(s). 

Before you read much farther, I do want to clarify something upfront! If you are currently brokenhearted and hurting from wrongs done to you, take note that your situation is different than what I referring to here.  Thankfully, Jesus does address your situation in Luke 4:18 and states that He has been sent to heal the brokenhearted.  In Psalms 147:3 God promises that He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.  There is hope and healing for your broken heart.    

In this writing, I’m referring to the church attributing every negative issue to our broken state.  We attribute our failures, our inabilities, and our physical imperfections to our brokenness.  We have accepted the mindset that all the imperfect things about ourselves should be attributed to our brokenness.   However, brokenness, as the scripture mentions is quite different though. The word is used properly when humbling ourselves in surrender to God with the purpose of Him flowing through us, for his glory.

This world we live in is broken.  Before coming to Christ we were broken.  God does not see us as broken beings, if we are in Christ.  As a matter of fact, scripture tells us that we are complete in Him (Colossians 2:10).  This claim by the church that “we are just broken People” feels like a “Yeah but” against what God says about us. Don’t get me wrong - we are to be broken!  Brokenness is not a result of the exterior happenings that make us feel less than or not enough.  Nor is it the weariness we experience due to us holding onto some expected outcome.  Brokenness is not the emotional trauma that we have endured and carried ourselves, only to find that our strength was not enough.   It is not the excuses we make for ourselves. The brokenness the Bible speaks of is completely different.  Grace, (the power to be and do what we can’t be and do in our own strength) covers our inadequacies caused by the fall in the Garden of Eden and our old nature. 

The Apostle Paul writes in the book of 2 Corinthians, chapter 12, “when I am weak, then I am strong,” (as one who is depending on His grace).  The external things that destroy the faith of many people are what Paul considered pleasure and delight! How? Because he knew God’s grace would strengthen him. In personal weakness, God’s grace imparts strength. His power is perfected in our weakness. Weakness without this grace is misery and continued weakness.

Scriptural brokenness is not the results of something that happens to us.  True Brokenness results in Us happening to something!  It’s not being victimized by circumstances but is being dependent upon and submitted to God’s plan and power in order to destroy the works of darkness and bring light to those situations. Life’s truest satisfaction comes when He increases and we decrease (John 3:30).  For it is God who works in you (us), both to will and to work for His good pleasure. (Philippians 2:13)

“There is something of great value within us, but we are like pots made of earth and clay.  This power is greater than any other power. But it comes from God, not from us.  We have much trouble, but we do not give up.  We are in hard places, but help always comes.  (2 Corinthians  4:7-8 World English New Testament)  

In biblical times clay pots that contained valuable items were typically sealed.  In many cases there was no way to sample what was inside a container. The container had to be broken to access the treasure within.  As it is with the vessel that this scripture speaks of, we must be broken, willingly, to allow the power of God within us to be manifested.

 Notice that circumstances and hardships listed in the scripture above are not what is referred to as brokenness, or the cause of brokenness.  There is hope and help in all circumstances.  Breaking is what comes from our humility to God’s greatness and goodness.

Scriptural brokenness is intentional.  It is deliberate with a purpose in mind.  

 The night Jesus was handed over to the soldiers, He took bread. When He had given thanks, He broke it and said, “Take this bread and eat it. This is My body which is broken for you. Do this to remember Me.” (1 Cor. 11:23-24).

Jesus intentionally gave Himself to be broken for us!  Brokenness for the believer means to die to self so that His abundant life can flow through us, bringing life to others.  Brokenness is necessary to reveal purpose.  Every Christian’s purpose is about the Kingdom of God and living for something bigger than ourselves, for those other than ourselves.

As the popular saying goes, “Think broken – Feel broken – Act broken”….  Okay, I admit, that’s not a popular saying.  I’ve never heard that before now, but there’s truth in those words.  Brokenness is not a state of being that needs healing.  It’s the beginning of something powerful.  As long as we keep telling ourselves that we are broken, in the sense that we are focusing on our faults and circumstances, we will live in that reality.   Let’s stop using the word “Broken” as an indicator of what’s wrong with us and realize it is a powerful reference of humility and submission to God’s reign, which leads to revival and restoration for ourselves and others.